Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Permission to Get Real - A First Step For Those Who Love And/Or Are Caring For A Person Living With Fibromyalgia.

Hello Everyone,

I'm in the middle of writing my next book and I wanted to post an excerpt from it here because I had those who are affected by Fibromyalgia but don't actually have it, on my mind today. It's so important to give them encouragement and help as much as the Fibro patient. One of my goals is to bridge that gap and bring a real emphasis on allowing both people to receive the support they need and deserve.

Here's To Your Success!

The following is an excerpt from "It's Happening To YOU Too" - Copyright 2009

"Taking an inner look is not an easy thing to do for some people, for others it’s something they are familiar with and are often introspective. Whatever the case is for you personally now is the time for you to take a few minutes or longer to sit down and think about nothing else except how you feel about the fact that your loved one or friend has Fibromyalgia.

Get out a pen or pencil and begin writing down everything you think of. Don’t put pressure on yourself, simply write down the thoughts that come to mind. It may be feelings, lost plans, frustration, questions, confusion..etc.

The bottom line is, you need a concrete idea of exactly how this situation is affecting YOU.
This is your time, and your private thoughts and writings. You do not have to share them with anyone unless you choose to. Don’t skip this step. If you continue to keep going on “auto-pilot” at some point there is going to be an obstacle you are not going to be able to assess clearly unless you take back control and really know how all of this is affecting you personally.

You have a right to admit that Fibromyalgia is not just happening to your friend or loved one. It is happening to you too. While you may not be experiencing the physical symptoms and challenges that your PWF (Person With Fibromyalgia) is experiencing, you are experiencing a very real effect on your day to day relationship with that person.

Without completing this very important first step, you are robbing yourself of the opportunity to be released from a great burden of stress and overwhelming emotions. You owe it to yourself to be permissive about this. Remember these are your private thoughts and feelings and you don't have to share them with anyone else unless you choose to. There may be some that you definitely will want to share with your PWF so that you both can understand each other more clearly and effectively, but as far as anyone else is concerned you can definitely keep these thoughts and emotions private.

A word to men: Very often men have the hardest time with this step because you are naturally equipped to “fix” rather than talk things over in depth. That’s OK. You don’t have to become more “feminized” to do this. What you do have to do however, is get real with yourself and be willing to face how exactly you are being affected as a person. Give yourself permission to go ahead and write things down. You can tear it up afterward if you want to. The point is, you have to come face to face with your “opponent” in order to know how to conquer them and win!

Every team has a game plan before they go into competition right? Well, think of this as your inside look into the enemy camp. It’s your time to figure out your game plan and strategy for overcoming your enemy the FibroMonster and it’s tactics against you and your loved one or friend."
This is step 1. I'm going to be posting other tips and information here on the blog in the near future as well. Above all, remember whether you are a PWF or a person caring for and/or who loves a PWF, you are not alone in this.

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