Thursday, May 22, 2008

Find A Need & Fulfill It

Dear Friends,

I want to talk to you today about one of the greatest gifts we have as human beings. The gift of giving. Fibromyalgia steals from us in many ways. It steals from our family and friends, from our employers and from our pockets.

Today I want you to consider fighting Fibro in a whole new way. Each one of us has something special that we can do. It may be small and meaningful, or it may be grand and meaningful. It doesn't matter which. We each have the ability to meet a need someone else has.

Consider today what your talents and skills are and how you can use them to help someone else. The very wise truth "What goes around, comes around" is a truth we should bind tightly to our hearts and minds. If we help others, help comes back to us.

Fibromyalgia steals,....but we can add and give. We can add our talents and skills to help others and watch help come back to us.

If you know how to crochet, knit, craft, paint, sell, invest, teach, write, or ANYTHING else, consider using it to help others who are in need. Find a need and fulfill it.

It brings health to the mind, body, and soul when we reach out and touch our fellow human beings. It reverses negativity, and illness. It promotes kindness and prosperity. It combats the evils of this world and forces a turn toward those things that are good and right.

Today, find something that YOU can do to add and give. Watch changes begin to happen in your life.

Here's to your success!

Sunday, May 18, 2008

*Attn Fibrofighters* Your Support Network

Yesterday my husband was weighed down heavily. I had been experiencing a very painful flair up for the past 4 days and was having trouble walking and keeping up with my daily tasks. Yesterday morning he admitted to feeling helpless and hopeless to help me in any way. After talking for awhile I realized how important it is to remind him frequently of the little ways he helps me keep going.

I reminded him that he offers to massage my muscles, offers to run errands that I can't run, offers to interact and take care of our children when I'm fatigued and hurting, offers to pray over me and for me frequently, brings me flowers that are unusual and exotic from time to time, takes time to ask me how I feel every morning without fail, makes me walk and move when I don't feel like it, keeps up with my medical team and asks me when my appointments are, goes to the pharmacy and picks up my prescriptions when I can't....and on and on....

Do you have support people in your life? It's important to remember that for them Fibromyalgia attacks in a completely different way. It steals their time with us, special occasions with us, makes them worry over us, they feel stressed when there is 'nothing' they feel they can do to take away our pain, and for men especially, this last truth is vital to remember.

Men by nature are "fixers". When they see a problem, they want to fix it, need to fix it, and they'll run themselves crazy until they do. Fibromyalgia cannot be fixed in many cases and the men in our lives suffer from feeling helpless and sometimes like a failure. Of course we know they are NOT failures, yet the plague of self-doubt and condemnation hangs over their heads in silent torment they very often do not express to us because they don't want to add to our predicament. They suffer alone many times.

Here are some links to articles, information, and support groups. Some of them are written from husband's and men and family members supporting their loved one who is living with Fibro.

Take time today to thank your supporters and remind them that even the smallest ways that they help..... REALLY DOES HELP! Don't take them for granted.
1) http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/507405/living_with_fibromyalgia_from_a_husbands.html?cat=41
2) http://www.fibromyalgia-symptoms.org/QA/answers-supporting_my_wife_who_has_fibromyalgia_/
3) http://www.chronicfatiguerelapse.com/how_to_support_your_spouse_with_fibromyalgia.html
4) http://www.co-cure.org/husband.htm
5) http://www.lclark.edu/~sherrons/supportgroups.htm
6) http://www.fibromyalgia-support.net/groups.htm

Monday, May 12, 2008

*** SPREAD THE WORD ***

***Today is National Fibromyalgia Awareness Day***

If you or someone you know is living with Fibromyalgia, Spread the Word!
There is no cure for this disease currently. The National Fibromyalgia Association
has ways that you can make a donation toward research for a cure in the name of your friend or loved one today!

http://www.fmaware.org/site/PageServer?pagename=about_donate

Thursday, May 8, 2008

Becoming an ALPHA

What are Alphas? Alphas are leaders who rather than following someone else, set the course of action for themselves. They draw people in, they influence, they have a commanding presence, people want to hear what they have to say, they make decisions, they choose their associations carefully based on their own goals and whether or not those associations will move them toward their target or not.

Are you allowing Fibromyalgia to dictate your life? Is is commanding you or are you commanding IT? Today is the day to make your choice. If you continue in the mindset that you are "disabled", "handicapped", or "incapable" because of Fibro, your body will follow suit. If you determine that "Yes, I have Fibro, but Fibro doesn't have ME!" your body will follow suit.

You can choose to get up and move today. Move your arms, your legs, walk.... get your body in line with your attitude. Determine that no matter how you feel, it will NOT determine how you think!

Because I live with Fibro, I understand first hand how difficult it is to do what I'm saying. The pain is excruciating at times. I know. However, succumbing to that pain over and over and over on a daily basis will only weaken your resolve. You MUST FIGHT for the quality of your life! You must fight to have quality time for yourself, your children, your spouse or loved one, your career, and for fun days. You can't do that from your bed.

If you have to fight your way into standing and there are tears rolling down your face... so be it. Determine to stand anyway! Take a pillow and scream into it if you have to. Get up and move!
If you don't, the pain in your muscles will increase and increase. When you move, you are fighting Fibro.

When you are at work, take frequent breaks to shake out your arms and legs, move your wrists and ankles. If you are fighting brain fog, take a break to close your eyes and think about nothing for 10 minutes. Let your mind rest before taking on a new task.

I've just come off of the longest flair I've endured since being diagnosed. Usually my flairs last at the most 3 days. This one lasted over four weeks. I was back to using my cane and my tens unit and I was FRUSTRATED! However, I knew that if I succumbed in my mind, it was going to be all over.

Friends, Fibro is a cruel disease. It's invisible to others, it's unpredictable, it's confusing, and it steals from us. We must have the mindset that Fibro is "only happening" to us, but it's not US! There are so many men and women I've met who have given up and allowed Fibro to steal everything in their lives. The pain enticed them to believe it was all over for them. Doctors and family, and friends who don't understand or who still believe "it's all in your head" are driving them to believe what they say! Be an ALPHA! You're the one living with Fibro, so don't let others tell you what is and isn't happening to your own body. No, YOU tell THEM. If they don't believe you, move on until you find a support network who does! Even if it's just one other person, find someone who will stand with you and who will offer you the support and encouragement you need. Don't let yourself down. Keep fighting and keep looking for a doctor who will help you, rather than shove pill after pill down your throat. There are several links on my blog to foundations and communities who have VITAL information that can help you.

You CAN still have your goals and still work toward them. If you are no longer working in a mainstream career, and you want to earn money for yourself, take a look at all of the posts in my blog! Let's start working together to determine what fits YOU. What makes YOU feel fulfilled and excited!

My Fibro friends are my passion! Fighting against the "conquered" mindset of Fibro drives me!Even when no one comments or posts on the blog and I think I'm reaching no one... I keep on. I know that at some point, I'm going to touch some one's life and it's going to make a difference for them. It's ALL worth it, if I reach just one person, one employer, one doctor, one friend....

What's inside you? If you didn't have Fibro, what would you be doing? Did you know you can STILL do it?! It may have to be "tweaked" a little, but don't give up. Determine to become an Alpha today!